The Secret of Good Relationships

Whether it's a love relationship, a business partnership or a friendship, this statement remains true (with varying levels of hand-holding though😉). It's OUR responsibility to help our partner or friend to UNDERSTAND what we have communicated. So often we deliver a message and expect it to have been understood as WE understand it, however, we all have VARYING perspectives according to our own life experiences and THIS is the main reason misunderstandings exist. Once you have delivered your message, find a way to have the other person tell you/reflect back what THEIR understanding is, and/or reiterate what you want to say in a variety of ways to make your message crystal clear. It's weird to think that everyone else doesn't think in the same way as we do. Values, ethics and meanings get added to us with each experience we go through and, of course, we have NOT all experienced the same things. Forgiveness is vital to be able to LET GO of what happened and to break any emotional ties which only serve to cause us harm. Sometimes we find ourselves having to forgive where there was no apology, yet it really is KEY to breaking any emotional ties to the situation and to our own future growth. On the matter of forgiveness and boundary-setting, I personally stand by my previous posts on the subject and will usually only forgive ONCE. After that, If there has been good discussion surrounding the issue and it happens again I consider the 'mistake' to be a deliberate and direct insult. Yes, I am aware of what the bible says on forgiveness and would say that it's our own personal decision how many times we choose to forgive. I don't profess to be Jesus-like when it comes to forgiveness because I am NOT fond of imitating a doormat and allowing others to metaphorically wipe their dirt all over me. Relationships get STRONGER when BOTH are willing to UNDERSTAND mistakes and FORGIVE each other. THEN there must be sufficient RESPECT shown for one another NOT to repeat the episode! May ALL your relationships grow strong like mighty forests! ❤🌱❤🌱❤ #katherinedalelife #growth #relationships #forgiveness #understanding #respect #communication #stronger #wisdom #liveyourbestlife